The days of dad coming home from work expecting dinner on the table, the kids in bed and mum having dealt with all the parenting duties are well and truly over for most of us.
Yet as a new dad you will still come across some people surprised to see quite normal parts of fatherhood in the 21st Century.
The practical dads will on occasion go out together with the babies, but without the mums. The first time we did this cars were beeping their horns at the sight of three dads pushing babies in push chairs together. Really?
Stop for a coffee and the inevitable comments start rolling in…Where’s mum today? You three are brave. What do you do when they start crying?
I’m not even going to attempt to answer these questions, but what I will do is tell you 9 things you shouldn’t say to a new dad.
1. Looks like she wants her mummy.
Yeah right, because no dad could possibly calm their baby down without passing her straight to mum. What do you think we do when mum goes out for the day? Babies, especially newborn babies, don’t generally cry because they need mum. They cry because they are hungry, tired, want comforting, or just need their nappy changed.
2. Is that your baby?
Nope. I kidnapped this baby and decided to take her down the park to feed the ducks. Dads out alone with young babies is now a pretty common sight, but there are still some people that will look at you suspiciously.
3. Have you changed a nappy yet?
Seriously what decade are we living in?
4. I bet you can’t wait to get back to work for a break?
Yes – I can’t stand spending time with my family. I’d much rather be stuck in the office. We live in the age of the stay-at-home dad, shared work/parenting and flexible working hours.
5. “Who dressed her?”
Dad if her clothes clash. Mum if your baby looks cute today. Apparently.
6. Are you sure you don’t want mum to take over that?
If I wanted mum to take over this then I would give her to mum. Dads, just like mums are perfectly capable at getting to grips with most aspects of parenting. Every time a dad struggles a little, does not mean mum needs to step in.
7. Are you sure you don’t want to check with mum first?
Pretty sure dads are capable of making decisions. There are times we will check with mum and times mum will probably check with us.
8. Mum knows best
Okay mum probably does know best most of the time, but it doesn’t mean dad’s opinion isn’t important either.
9. Looks like dad’s babysitting today
This is probably the worst. If it’s your child it’s called parenting.